So there I was, just randomly passing time (avoiding stuff I should BE doing) on google and I came across a pic that read “I was afraid to love again, but you helped me”. It made me think a bit.
We’ve all been in relationships (or had relations) with someone that went sour and have made us totally want to give up on the prospect of ever finding real (or true) love and happiness with that one special person. I’ve been there a few times; I’m not going to lie. It sucked. It always does. But I think the aftermath of something you thought was good, ending, is inevitable. If you had genuine feelings for that person of course you’re going to hurt more than the other party. I usually feel like I end up hurting more because I naturally feel a lot more at times. But that’s just me and my feelings related to a whole nother other topic which I won’t get into now.
But finding love again, or having love find you doesn’t necessarily have to be in the form of a relationship relationship. You can see something that inspires you to feel love or even have a slight glimmer of hope that it will happen for you (again). I know there are some people out there who feel or fear that they will never find or fall in love again because it’s been so long and they’ve just given up all together. That kinda saddens me a little. Don’t we all deserve a little bit of love and happiness? Just because you’re into someone who isn’t AS into you as you are them, I really think you shouldn’t be discouraged by it and be put off completely.
Love is a wonderful thing. Not only to have but also to see. It doesn’t have to be in the form of dating. I’m talking about love in general. Being in love (although as times may be trying) is honestly a great feeling when the feeling is mutual. I’ve been afraid to love and I’ve also been somewhat afraid of love. Not too sure if the reason is because I fall easily. As much as I’m pro love and all that hoopla, sometimes I’ll see people being all lovey-dovey and I’ll be like eww get a room, lol. Not because I’m envious of it, sometimes it’s just like ugh, why the PDA right infront of my face. I’ve been in a few little romances and relations with guys that haven’t lasted very long and I guess that made me think what’s the point or trying again or going out on a limb and seeing what happens.
Being single is fun at times, at other times not so much. But if you choose to be in a relationship, you have got to make your intentions clear from the get go. For you and the other person involved. At the end of the day, you don’t have to get into any kind of relationship with someone you choose to “test the waters with”.
But like I was saying, love is a great thing to experience. It makes you do and say stupid things and you will have not a care in the world. And if things don’t work out, at least there will be some good memories. Just don’t get involved with someone because you feel lonely at the time. You will be miserable and it will show and it could make the other person feel like an idiot.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone and feel that things don’t feel the way they did in the beginning and that your efforts and time are going unnoticed? Yeah I have. Not a nice feeling or position to be in at all. That’s when you know, you gotta end it and move on. I know I did. Sure it took me a while to get over that person but the fact of the matter is, is that I did, and I never went back as much as the proposals were presented to me. I said naaah, because I knew the person and I knew that nothing would change (despite protests that they had changed) I knew it would pretty much be the same and I didn’t want to be in that position again.
Like the song “I can’t make you love me” (originally done by Bonnie Raitt, but I love the Peter Andre version, because I just love him!) goes..
“Cause I can’t make you love me, If you don’t.
You can’t make your heart feel, something it won’t”
Love is natural. It has to be. I don’t think you can be forced into love and be forced to love. I mean arranged marriages are kinda like that (minus the forced bit for some) but could you ever stay in a loveless relationship? I couldn’t. I’d rather get out than stay and be unhappy. Ok I think that’s enough rambling for today.
The point I wanted to make was when you find someone who’s good to you, make them know it. Appreciate them and let them know how you feel and stuff and hope that they feel the same way too. When that one person comes along who makes you see things from a different perspective, you know they are special and one of a kind. I do hope all those that feel let down by people and love, do eventually get to find (or be found) by that one person who’ll become their world.
I’ll end this post with one of my most favourite quotes about love. It’s from the Bible (p.s I’m not religious in any way, but I do love this passage)
1 Corinthians 13v 4
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres”.
Until next time Stay safe and have a great weekend 🙂